Week One: #Purpose
It’s often said that ‘you can’t keep what you don’t give away.’ What will you give to others through your best work in 2018 that will positively impact them so that you might keep it, as well?
I straddle two worlds as a bi-racial person and I’m finding in my work, two audiences. There are areas of overlap, but the vision of what I’m in service to differs. The overlap is the importance of connecting to the body so we might feel a deeper sense of “belonging” to ourselves and thus in our world. This reconnecting with our body is a path bathed in vulnerability, honesty and joy. For white people, I’m offering a sense of discovery and new awareness. For POC, it’s space to be fully expressed, represented, heard and counted as important. Of course, there’s overlap in these values, but I don’t, for instance, enter into my work with a white person with a goal of helping them feel more heard. The truth is, the inequality we live with fractures us all. No one is winning, so I understand that white people also don’t always feel represented, but leading with this is not a primary objective though experiences of this impact are honored.
If I had to boil it down, for both audiences it’s about connection to self and other. This happens on mental, emotional and spiritual planes. What I’m giving feels like: Joy, Possibility, Worthiness, Connection, Expression and Play.
What do you need to do in 2018 to ensure that you live without unnecessary regrets and have that kind of fulfilling purpose and impact on others?
To show up. Honesty and vulnerability come naturally for me. But because it’s hard not to be so raw, I can hide in the comfort of familiar places and people. It’s time to be in the world and in conversations with “important” people sharing my truth and vulnerability about whatever is emerging. I am a warrior.
How are you going to make space in 2018 to create what you really want that will be for the greater good of humanity? What ritual might help your mindset make space?
I like this idea of daily devotion. I meditate every morning. After my session, I can jot down, “What I’m devoted to today ______,” in a notebook. So easy and such a guiding star throughout my day. Today, it’s gentleness and honesty.
I’m also really liking this idea of nightly journaling. Every night I share one gratitude in a gratitude jar that sits on my dresser. I can add a paragraph or two (perhaps in my devotion journal) about my values and vision for my work. I see how my gratitude can be an easy entry into writing about my vision. Sometimes that word feels big and unapproachable, but if I access it through something that touched me, that’s an easy way in. As a body person, letting my felt sense lead the way is very helpful.
What habit or activity might you stop to make space for fulfilling purpose?
Showing up for others before I show up for myself. It’s so easy to put time for my visioning and creating on the back burner while I put out someone’s fire or avail myself to witness another’s pain. I’ve got to start putting on my own mask first and that means carving out the time and not answering the phone or emails. I’d like to devote regular time for this. Daily. It’s gotta be like eating.